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“Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship, never.” (Charles C. Colton)
Romance sometimes finds its beginning in friendship. But, whether or not a couple experiences a When Harry Met Sally friends-to-lovers evolution, friendship is an important part of the marriage equation. At ScreamFree, we like to say that you can be lovers and best friends, but only in that order.
Sexuality and romance define your relationship as lovers, and it’s a distinction reserved for your marriage only. Getting comfortable as friends can lead to complacency, cutting off your erotic sparks. With the “lover” part of the relationship absent, one or both spouses may look for that missing puzzle piece elsewhere.
Don’t get comfortable. Sex is supposed to be uncomfortable. That’s what makes it good. Where there is risk, there are butterflies — the fluttering in your stomach comes from the adrenaline rush while putting your love on the line, not knowing if it will be reciprocated. Risk yourself like you did when you first chose your spouse, and, without expectations, let your spouse know you desire them.
By fortifying the lovers aspect of your marriage, you’ll experience intimacy that can’t be found in a friendship.
Peace begins with a pause,
Hal
